Immediate Gratification (Letters to My Daughter) #atozchallenge

Immediate Gratification (letters to My Daughter) #atozchallenge
Baby Girl,

I’ve been out of town on business this week, and last night we faced timed (video chatted). You were so excited to see me. You said “Hi di-da” and were grinning like crazy. You got a book and attempted to read to me, and it just melted my heart so much. I love you like crazy.

I keep being confronted with this world’s insatiable thirst for immediate gratification. I find myself seeking it far too often. Simple wants and desires become a sudden need because I have immediate access to fulfilling the want. Whether it’s wanting a little energy boost, and buying a energy drink, or its defeating boredom with online social media, I am fulfilling wants as if they were needs.
This world is all about the immediate gratification. People my generation and younger seem to not want to work hard and drudge through the mud of this world on their journey to success. I understand that mindset. If you could get what you want quickly, then why wait?
There are a couple of reasons why that line of thinking is faulty. First, immediate gratification means short lived satisfaction. Just as fast as the quick fix fills the want, it disappears. Let’s use my need for energy and fulfilling it with an energy drink. That’s the quick fix, but as soon as it’s worn off, I am no longer satisfied and I am back to being tired. The long term fix, and the more rewarding fix would be to get healthier so that I would have an abundance of energy. If I slept more, drank more water, ate healthier, and worked out regularly, then I would have more energy throughout my day. I would feel better physically and mentally, while achieving sucess in filling my need for more energy. The results of the long term fix would be rewarding on a daily basis rather than the few hours of the quick fix. Yet, the quick fix is easier… way easier. So, you can see the allure of the quick fix, but is it not obvious that the long term fix is a better option all together?
We are faced with these types of decisions on a daily basis, and you will have to decide on your own which way to go. Which journey to take, the quick, or the long journey. The easy journey, or the hard journey.

In most people’s lives, the things that they worked hardest for, or waited longest for, are the most gratifying. There are no shortcuts in life worth taking. You cannot become a multi-millionaire over night without hard work. You can not lose weight, or gain muscle easily and quickly. You cannot gain knowledge without putting in the time to learn it, understand it, and use it.

Pick a profession and there will be a person who is on top, and that person worked their tail off to get there. No one gave it to them, no one made it easy for them, but it was their hard work and effort over a long period of time that lead to their success. The best ballarenia in the world practiced thousands and thousands of hours. The richest entruepenuer had a brilliant idea, but had to put a ton of effort and most likely sleepless nights to ensure their rise to the top.

I get very little sleep at times in my life because I am working my tail off to chase my dreams. Dreams will always be dreams unless you put effort towards it. No dream is worth having if it is easily acheived. Success is not a destination, it is a continual reaching for greater dreams. Once you have stoped reaching for those new heights, then you begin your descent back down towards mediocrity. That may sound harsh, but that is a reality that the world does not want to believe. If I were to stop writing, and stop chasing my dream of being an author today… where would that leave me? I’d be just another guy who couldn’t finish a book. Another guy who might have some talent but didn’t put the time, effort, and energy into chasing his dreams. Talent unworked is talent lying dorminant. What is the point of having dreams or talent if we do not chase them or use them?

My advice to you Winslow, is to chase those dreams with fervor and tancity. My advice to you is to never believe the lie of immediate gratification. My advice to you is to never give up, and know that the journey will be long and hard fought. It will take sweat, blood, tears, and the overcomming of fears to reach your dreams, whatever they may be.

Yet… it will be so worth it. It will be worth all the pain and frustration experienced along the way. Those obstacles that you will face will be currency of joy when your dreams are reached. Then you will realize that you can do anything that you set your mind too. Because your mind will not be tainted in the false reality of immediate gratification. You will know that all it will take for the next step is some hard work. It won’t be easy, but it WILL be simple.

Life is never easy, but it is simple if you let it be. I  do hope that you can take these princibles and apply them to your life and pursuit of happiness, because they apply broadly and are the foundation to success.

I love you sweet girl. Teaching you will be a long and hard road, but it will be worth ever moment to see you as a happy and thriving adult. Never lose hope in yourself, because you are your own greatest asset.

I’ve learned a lot of these lessons the hard way, but I hope that you can avoid a few of the bumps along your path to your dreams.



A= Amazed & Altered

B= Boys, Boys, Boys

C= Cosmopolitan, Confidence, and Culture

D= Dreamers


F= Friendship

G= God

H= Home Run!

I= Immediate Gratification


14 thoughts on “Immediate Gratification (Letters to My Daughter) #atozchallenge

  1. This is a cute theme for the A/Z challenge; I’m thinking along the way as your daughter grows she will get to read these letters 🙂

    So true about immediate gratification. My husband and I were just talking about this the other day. It is good to delay that gratification and to work hard. It has gotten him to where he is in his career and me as well since we both agreed it was necessary to delay in order to achieve.



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